Having sex can raise the intensity of emotions that people
feel for each other — whether you’re in a serious or casual relationship. Creating
a sexually healthy relationship is key to success in any (sexual) partnership.
By NO means am I saying that sex is essential to a successful relationship but
if you and your significant other are sexually active, healthy sex is key.
According to Sexuality Information and Education Council of
the United States (SIECUS), “A sexually healthy relationship is a relationship
based on shared values and has five characteristics; consensual, nonexploitative,
honest, mutually pleasurable, and protected against unintended pregnancy and
sexually transmitted infections”. (An Innovation to Health p. 255)
If you are in a sexual relationship, does it have these five
characteristics? If not, consider them and I am sure it will make you two grow
stronger.
Communication is vital in a sexually healthy relationship,
even though these discussions may be awkward for some. If you have a need or a
problem that relates to your partner, it is your responsibility to bring it up.
If you are not comfortable talking to your partner, how are you going to be
comfortable enough having sex with them?
As I stated earlier,
the ability to communicate openly is the secret to a healthy and happy sexual
relationship. Here are some specific suggestions of what to talk about:
Choose an appropriate time and place for an intimate
discussion. Choose a private place where you are familiar with and feel
comfortable being and choose a time you can give each other your full
attention.
Ask open-ended questions that require further explanation.
Be sure you are able to follow up and keep the conversation going. Begin
questions with sayings such as, “How do you feel about…?” and “What are your
thoughts about…?”
If you would like to try something different, than say so.
Don’t force the issue but do try talking it through. If you want to request
changes or tackle a touchy topic, start with positive statements. Let your
partner know how much you enjoy having sex with them. Then express your
intentions of enjoying it even more in different and more exciting ways.
Reference:
Hales, D (2015). An Invitation to Health The Power of Now. Canada: CENGAGE Learning.
Reference:
Hales, D (2015). An Invitation to Health The Power of Now. Canada: CENGAGE Learning.
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